Are You a Bossy B#$%&?

Oh, yes, I did! Yup, I just asked you that question. Because I asked myself that same question. I͛m coming up on my 5-year anniversary as an Army Retiree! (insert applause, lol) And like the past four years, this time of the year makes me reflect on the years gone by, the lessons learned and my overall progress and adjustment to life outside the uniform. So, back to the original question – Are you a bossy b#$%&? Really, can a strong, assertive woman just be a great leader and NOT considered a bossy b#$%&?

In my time as a retiree, I͛d had some amazing opportunities to exert my leadership skills – as a president of a women͛s networking group, as the lead for an event, and as the visionary behind several anthology book projects, just to name a few. I must admit my military leadership experience came in handy allowing me to organize, rally my team, plan events and schedules, and execute plans successfully. And then there were the times when my aggressive, um, I mean my assertive leadership style was not so well received. It was those moments that had me question, ͚is there a difference.͛ Can I truly be a good leader and not be considered, well, you know. I concluded – YES! Absolutely. Women make amazing leaders. I know – I served with too many to believe otherwise. We are:

  • Assertive
  • Bold
  • Confident
  • Determined
  • Effective
  • Gracious
  • Honest
  • Influential
  • Jubilant
  • Kind
  • Leaders
  • Motivated
  • Noble
  • Objective
  • Passionate
  • Queens
  • Responsible
  • Smart
  • Transparent
  • Understanding
  • Valuable
  • Well Informed
  • X-traordinary (I know this is not a word, but I was on a roll, lol)
  • Yen
  • Jealous

Wow! What a great list. Yes, women leaders are many things, but what we are not is: 

  • Bossy
  • Insensitive
  • Threatening
  • Condescending
  • Harassers

I’m excited to be celebrating my 5-year anniversary. Yes, I ͚ve learned a lot in my 22 years of service with some of my greatest lesson learned after I removed my combat boots for the last time. And the greatest lesson of them all is that I, and many women like me, are great leaders as a result of our military service. So, stand tall sisters in arms and let the leader in you shine. #salute